Having sex with a new partner is always a bit nerve wracking — whether it’s just your first time together or your first time with anyone, and no matter how far along in your relationship you are.So, you’re thinking about having sex for the first time ever. Maybe you’re feeling a bit nervous. You might have a lot of questions like, What should I expect? What will it feel like? Will it be awkward?
While everyone’s experience will be different, we have some tips that will help make your first time as safe and healthy as possible.
First and foremost, you should feel safe and respected by your partner in all aspects of your relationship, and that includes sex. If you don’t feel safe, or if you are feeling pressured by your partner to do anything sexual, these are red flags that your relationship might be unhealthy or possibly even abusive.
Protect Your Health
If your partner tests positive for an STI, learn about options for protecting yourself if you decide to have sex with them. One way to protect yourself from STIs or unwanted pregnancy is to use protection (like condoms or dental dams) every time you have sex with someone, just to be on the safe side.
Talk Birth Control
If you’re having sex where pregnancy is a physical possibility (and if neither of you is interested in getting pregnant), have a conversation with your partner about what kind of birth control the two of you will be using.
Have Realistic Expectations
Sex in the movies often looks easy and effortless, but in real life, not so much. Be prepared to feel a little awkward; after all, this is a new experience for you! Your first time might not be perfect , but the good news is sex of any kind can get better with time and experience.
Don’t Set Your Expectations Too High
“The best ‘first time’ sex I’ve heard about was when both parties didn’t take it too seriously and were a little playful with each other,”. Don’t be afraid to laugh! After all, sex is supposed to be fun.”Make a few jokes, acknowledge the awkwardness, then try to enjoy your time together.”