Being insecure is a hard way to live life. Caring too much makes you anxious, nervous, and uptight. If you are asking, why am I so insecure, take heart!
Unfortunately, insecurity is a natural part of the human experience.
If you wonder why you are insecure, there is probably a time in your childhood where someone significant, or someone you valued, made you feel not good enough. You internalized it and carried it around like a backpack. The bigger unfortunate, the same person set you on a course to find people who disapprove so you convince them that you are worthy of love.
The key to overcoming your insecurity is surrounding yourself only with those people who love and cherish all the gifts you have.
#1 Stop thinking your job is to make people happy. No one put you on earth to make everyone else happy. Stop thinking it is your job. Often, people with insecurity put the feelings of others ahead of their own.
#2 Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice your partner makes and be more present in the moment so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture.
#3 Insecurity can be debilitating, but it doesn’t have to be. Just because you don’t feel like you are capable of something great doesn’t mean you aren’t, and it certainly doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go for it.
#4 Just because you’re insecure doesn’t mean that you’re not an awesome person, and you definitely shouldn’t be waiting until you’ve got it all together to give yourself permission to like who you are.
#5 As time passes, you’ll become insecure about fewer things, and the things you do spend energy feeling insecure about will become far less trivial. Just accept the fact that insecurity isn’t 100 percent bad for you, and that the lifelong process of overcoming it is going to make you a more beautiful human being.
#6 Battling insecurity isn’t about getting to the point where you never feel insecure about anything, because I just really don’t think that’s how life works. Insecurity will probably be a constant battle for most of us, if not all of us, but the more you overcome your insecurities and learn how to use them to your advantage, the better off you’ll be.
#7 Stop thinking you are so important. The problem many insecure people have is they, and I hate to sound mean because I don’t mean it this way, think too much of themselves. Truthfully, humans are pretty self-absorbed creatures.
#8 If someone doesn’t like you it is on them, not you. It is okay if someone doesn’t particularly care for you. It isn’t your problem, it is theirs. Some people will not like you because you try too hard to be liked. It is a complex world, people are complex beings.
#9 Learn to love you. Insecurity really comes down to you not liking you. If you are okay with yourself and love who you are, then you don’t really care about what others think of you.
#10 Learn to love you. Insecurity really comes down to you not liking you. If you are okay with yourself and love who you are, then you don’t really care about what others think of you.
#11 Forgive yourself. Insecure people feel bad about themselves. It usually stems from their childhood or past experiences.
#12 Stop judging other people. Often, people who are hard on other people are hard on themselves. Perhaps if you stop judging other people, you will stop feeling like people judge you.